- actively reflect more on good moments than bad events
- avoid reflecting when upset (emphasized by the authors)
- good reflection almost only comes when someone is "psychologically healthy, confident, open, and feels in control" while reflecting
- [WR’s personal note: a good workout and sleep is important before trying to analyze a negative situation]
- enjoy the process & avoid expectations: Sometimes useful reflections do not come in a set time
- expecting that journaling should 'go a certain way' or we 'should uncover an insight' reduces the efficacy & creates stress
- approaching it with a sense of forgiveness — things take time — will let you uncover more real insights
- Note that good reflection is less self-centric, it is more motivated by curiosity or an "epistemic interest in the events"
Technical Notes
- Rather than explicitly bad, the general body of research into journaling struggles to find positive correlations with the practice.
- Negative journaling is called rumination — and the academics spend multiple pages explaining that self-reflection can easily turn into rumination. Apparently if reflection is rumination, it is a cyclical, overly self-focused, poor thinking process.
- "Rumination seems motivated by perceived threats, losses, or injustices to the self. Reflection is motivated by curiosity or epistemic interest in the self."
Extra notes
- the clear structure of the 5 minute journal that Tim Ferriss uses is likely beneficial. Additionally, "morning pages" which is one of the most prevalent journaling practices is incidentally built on the same observatory (non-judgemental) focus.
The author's recommended journaling process:
A successful method will promote the following developmental processes:
(1) engaging with (i.e. having/allowing/ articulating) as well as observing feelings;
(2) cultivating a mutually inspiring internal as well as an external dialogue (a conversation with one’s self and others);
(3) articulating lived experiences while also questioning existing beliefs about those experiences (using specific and concrete details to construct stories and using questions to deconstruct our responses to experience);
(4) understanding the theory of the growth process involved in identity formation, which includes identifying pitfalls and responding with do-able steps (theory is provided on a just-enough, just-in-time basis);
(5) stimulating a playful, creative process that fosters a sense of fun and competence.
- A group-work format has additional benefits because it allows for the development of a wider range of pos- sible perspectives, has individuals see and experience that they are ‘‘not alone’’ with their struggles and pro- vides opportunities to witness one’s own growing com- petence through the eyes of others.
WR's personal reference: ‣